Gender & Sexuality
Are you seeking an affirming space to explore your sexuality or sexual orientation?
Sexual feelings and attractions can change naturally for many people over the course of their lives. Maybe who you find yourself intrigued by or interested in is not the same as who you were previously attracted to. Maybe you are struggling to figure out where you fit in the sea of identity options: queer, gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, two spirit, straight, and countless others. Maybe you find yourself being less interested in sex or romance than others around you, and you’re wondering if you might be asexual, demisexual, aromantic, demiromantic, or somewhere else on the asexual or aromantic spectrums. Maybe you’re completely unsure about all of this and want a space to explore and possibly figure things out.
Wherever you’re at in your journey, you may find that exploring your feelings and attractions is crucial to your satisfaction, confidence, and sense of self. Questioning or exploring your identity is by no means a sign of a problem, and the only person who can define your sexual identity is you. However, my work as a queer therapist who is skilled and knowledgeable in areas related to sexuality and sexual/romantic orientation can offer an intentional space for you to clarify desires, attractions, and identities. I also offer support for you to navigate challenges navigating family conflicts, relationships, and a world that may be challenging or oppressive.
Are you on a journey of exploring, defining, or transitioning your gender identity, presentation, or expression?
If you are questioning or exploring your gender identity, you’re not alone. Maybe you are in the process of learning, discovering, or questioning how you want to express your gender. Maybe you are trying to decide which identity or identities feel like the best fit for you: transgender, trans man, trans woman, FtM, MtF, genderqueer, genderfluid, gender variant, two spirit, agender, cisgender, or somewhere else within (or without) the beautiful galaxy of gender options. Maybe you are trying to get support around your physical and/or social transition. Maybe you feel isolated, confused, or scared to face challenging relationships, family experiences, or social environments. Maybe you have not yet shared these feelings or experiences with others, and it feels like you are hiding a big secret or carrying a heavy weight all by yourself.
Coming to know your own feelings and thoughts about your gender identity (and possibly sharing that with others) is a highly personal experience and can feel overwhelming and vulnerable. I believe that the only person who can define your gender identity is you. I also believe that having support from a supportive and affirming gender therapist can be incredibly helpful along the way. In therapy, you will have a space to focus on what a changing identity means to you, and address any changes happening in your relationships. I will support you to gain insight into what gender means for you and what choices are right, and can make referrals to medical professionals as needed.
Note: For clients seeking hormones or hormone blockers, and/or surgery, I believe strongly in the informed consent model. However, many doctors and surgeons continue to require referral letters. If needed, I am able to write letters for medical resources or procedures in line with WPATH Standards of Care.
Your identities matter here. Your whole self matters here.
Maybe you’re questioning or unsure of your identities. Or maybe you’re confident in your identities, but just want to work on other concerns with a therapist who “gets it.” Either way, it’s important to find a good fit with a therapist you can trust will hold space for you. I have ample experience, both personally and professionally, exploring topics of gender and sexuality. I am queer and trans/non-binary, and am familiar with the challenges that queer, transgender, and gender variant people face and the unique struggles we must overcome in the world. I am also very intentional about ensuring that our work together is focused on you and your unique experiences, however similar to or different from mine they are.
My work as a therapist who specializes in gender and sexuality is also integrative and holistic. I am comfortable discussing and integrating all of your identities and experiences, including race, ethnicity, culture, spirituality, history, disabilities, and learning & processing styles into our work together. I am passionate about social justice, and I understand the realities, complexities, and impacts of oppression, privilege, and power on everyday life. If you have questions about working with me, please don’t hesitate to contact me.